Our brains operate on this system of rules and logic that help us normalize all the chaos of life. We have rules about when we should wake up, when to eat, how people should treat us - and all of it adds up to a laundry list of expectations.
When reality wanders away from that path of expectations, we reject reality. We get angry. We get sad. We run away. Our brains weren’t built to cope - at least not without practice.
Life becomes the practice.
As we accumulate experiences, we build up a tolerance for bullshit. Which is really to say, we’re building a tolerance for broken expectations and acknowledging that we’re not in control.
The interview process only increases that tolerance for taking crap, which I learned this week by tweeting about the record for most interviews before an offer. As the numbers started climbing from 9, 18, even 33 interviews, I was mortified.
Past the sheer numbers, I’m mad on behalf of those candidates. We both know as the volume of interviews rose, the number of expectations and disappointments did too. But candidates can’t always recall those in a numerical value. They become war stories and help establish a new expectation: that if you’re a candidate, you are a second class citizen.
You know I’m not down for that.
The three posts I’m sharing this week are all about people and how we can create better expectations for work. I hope you enjoy them as much as I did.
Hope you have a great week -