I have a new definition of bravery. Thanks, Glennon Doyle. She says that bravery is not doing what everyone else tells you despite your fear. Bravery is doing what your gut tells you. It’s a willingness to disappoint anyone but yourself. (The book is Untamed. Get a copy. Trust me).
That kind of bravery? You earn that by sucking up the expectations of everyone until you break. The upside? You’ll learn what it means to be alive when those expectations almost kill you.
I know the feeling. I’ve been doing bravery all wrong. When I started Three Ears Media
, I let the expectations take up too much mental space. I went a hundred different directions looking for anyone to tell me I was doing it right. I had to do it all. I had to say yes. That’s how you get people to like you. That’s how you get them to refer your agency and make other people buy.
All of that yes made me hate this company. I caught that “I hate my job” feeling creeping up on me—the Monday dread. There I was thinking I was making everyone else so happy by stealing my own.
I’ve been doing a lot of work over the last six months to make this company what I want it to be, and not what anyone told me it should become. I had to learn that avoiding disappointment isn’t as critical to success as dodging moments where I fail myself.
Next week is the culmination of that time, at least when it comes to Three Ears Media. While the mental transformation rarely comes with release notes and announcements, the business one does. You’ll hear all about my big launch on Tuesday.
In all honesty? I’m scared. I guess that’s expected when you spend months thinking, creating, and planning as you pour yourself into a dream.
I’m also more in love with this company than I ever have been.
I spent so much time in survival mode - in my life and when I started this company. The anger motivated me, but only for so long. This next step, my vision for this? That’s coming from love, and it’s more than a to-do list. It’s a plan—a dream.
I guess you could call it brave, too.
This weekend, I’ll treat myself to a great dinner and a lot of self-care after months of hard work on myself and this company. I’ll also be reading a new book. Which one, I’m not sure yet. Reply if you have any recommendations.
While I’m working through my next book and some amazing food, I hope you’ll take a minute to read these posts.
I’ll write again next week when I can shout my secret from the digital rafters…
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