I have to be honest with you - I don’t have any inspiration to offer today. I had a tough week. There were days where people asked how I was doing. I didn’t know. I’d be lying if I said I had a better answer now.
A friend was sexually assaulted last week, and I feel suffocated by the weight of how evil this world can be. It feels unfair to exist where you have so little authority to control anything. I hate that realization that we have no power to protect or love each other to prevent the hurt others deliver.
I’m not ready to go into more details or write about it in this letter. Sexual assault doesn’t leave room for nuance or inspirational storytelling. I wouldn’t dare try.
But I will say this.
It’s a tragedy that happens every 73 seconds. Every 73 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted. No matter your gender, age, race, etc. - no one is safe from the trauma it inflicts.
With that said, I know it is a topic we need to talk about more. While we must broach traumatic events carefully, we can’t avoid them, or else we commit ourselves to the idea that trauma breaks people. That’s not an absolute. Trauma changes people - that’s the definition of trauma, that someone is different after the event. It does not guarantee destruction.
That’s where I hope all that love that can’t protect anyone goes - into their healing.
While I can’t save anyone, I know I can support their healing. That’s what I tried to do with this week’s blog. It’s not a post about what happened to my friend last week. I wrote this about another friend’s story weeks ago.
I truly feel honored that she felt safe to share this story of workplace sexual assault with me in her healing process. It was admittedly hard to hear, but I learned so much - through her story, the research, and the writing. This story changed me and how I think about human connection in a digital workplace. I know I can be a better advocate, leader, and listener carrying her story with me for the rest of my life.
I would appreciate it if you took the time to read that story. To understand what happened and carry this story with you, too.
Be well -